Today I understand the true meaning of forgiveness. I had thought that forgiving was what good and nice people did. I thought I should do it because it was the right thing to do. I now understand that to forgive someone else is to forgive myself. When I hold anger in my mind, my unconscious does not know for whom that feeling is meant – it only knows that it is a container for resentment. To forgive is to let go and to release my own mind from being caught in the cycle of going over and over the hurt. I am not forgiving for the good of the other person. I am forgiving for the good of myself so that I can be free and move on. Forgiveness is a gift, a state of grace that benefits the giver as much as or more than the receiver. If I am to heal fully, I will need to forgive fully. I forgive for my own sake.