How To Forgive
The steps to Forgiveness are:
Write out what this person did to you as you perceived it. Don’t hold back.
Write out how you felt about these incidences. Make sure you really get into the feelings. Bring these feelings up, cry, yell, belt a pillow and make sure you totally get out the pain. This is totally important and by validating these feelings you will be able to take back your power.
Now switch your awareness to a bigger picture perspective. Write out:
“[Person’s name] even though I don’t condone your behaviour in any shape or form I recognise on a soul level you granted me the gift of understanding and healing my negative belief systems. The positive belief systems you have helped me create are… [List the positive belief systems – examples: ‘I choose to have firm and respectful boundaries. I deserve respect’, ‘”I am lovable simply for being me’, ‘I deserve respect, decency and honesty” etc.]”
Thank this person for granting you the gift of these new belief systems, release them and bless them on their journey.
Even if you cannot identify the new belief systems – powerfully know that only love and truth really exist. Fear and pain are false ideas that have nothing to do with the potential of our Ultimate Reality .
Perfect love casts out fear.
If fear exists, then there is not perfect love.
But, only perfect Love exists.
If there is fear, it produces a state that does not exist.
~ A Course in Miracles ~
Forgiveness Means Taking Back Your Power
Absolutely everything that we experience in life has come to us as a result of our soul’s highest evolution. In reality, every occurrence (no matter how it looks and turns up) is the soul’s fastest prescription towards perfect love, happiness and success.
Everything has been and always will be perfect. By simply acknowledging this and believing this you will be able to release the pain. This is our greatest goal: to move away from painful events, people and circumstances.
By liberating yourself to loving acceptance and trust in life (with healthy self-awareness and self-deservedness) this will occur effortlessly. It is our resistance, judgement and resentment that keeps the painful events and people showing up in our life.
When you have truly forgiven – people, situations and events no longer have power over you.
This article is an based on excerpts from the books,
“Breaking The Chains of Painful Love” and “Take Back Your Power”. A full Forgiveness Process of others and self is detailed in “Take Back Your Power”.