(Minding my own business)
One of the first things I heard after getting into the programme was that I must learn to deal with only those problems which are mine.
To me, this was a polite way of saying, “Mind my own business.” Since it has always been my nature to feel that I know what is best for everyone, deciding what is my business and what is not has been extremely difficult.
Although we are provided with numerous slogans as tools, I could not find out which quite seemed to fit for the this glaring defect of mine.
I decided that perhaps I could devise some personal tools of my own which would help. I came up with two questions which force me to look honestly at myself when I feel the urge to give unsolicited advice or to otherwise become involved in things which do not concern me:
(1) Is that your problem?
(2) Did anyone ask you opinion?
It’s amazing how frequently the answer to both of these questions NO!
This keeps my programme simple and helps keep me comfortable in recovery.
‘Stepping Stones to Recovery’