WOMEN AND EMOTIONS
“Well-behaved women rarely make history.”
— Laurel Thatcher Ulrich
When we women are excited, upset, passionate, angry, hurt, or expressive in any way, we are accused of being emotional. What woman hasn’t been asked if it is “that time of the month” when she’s angry or even sticking up for herself? It is commonly inferred that women who won’t ignore comments that are petty and demeaning must be “on the rag” or about to be. We are taught to swallow these comments because “it was just a joke” or “it’s no big deal.” But what seems to get lost is that all of these comments ARE a big deal because they add up to our low sense of self-worth.
Women do not lose their balance by allowing themselves to feel, experience and be guided by the emotions they were born with. It’s our dissatisfaction with ourselves and each other that keeps us off balance … not our emotions.
Society will continue to feed us and future generations of women exactly how it thinks we should be … and women will continue to help perpetuate these self-destructive views … until we decide what is good, bad, right or wrong for women. And I am convinced that punishing ourselves for being emotional is not in any way helpful.
~ Cena Codega
“Speak your mind, even if your voice shakes!”
— Maggie Kuhn
This was drawn from one of Cena’s contributions to the women at heart forum.