Do You Believe in Yourself?
I believe in your right to…
There was a time when I thought of myself as a victim. I believed that I was just ‘taking up space’ in the world, and that it would honestly be better off without me. Yes, I’d been abused, and more than once. By the time I left home, I was convinced that there was a brand on me somewhere, letting people know that I was just there to be walked all over – and they did.
Now, I walk tall. I have a good job, with a decent paycheck to live on, and even some prospects for promotion. I have a wonderful relationship with a man who has helped me take those final steps towards believing that I can be worthwhile to others, as well as myself. And I have a passion. To help others who are battling their way out of the despair I used to feel, and give something back for all the help I received on my way. The journey wasn’t all easy, and I’ve had setbacks along the way, (many, to be honest) but usually just when I needed it most, there was someone or something there for me. The tricky part was recognising it/them, accepting the gift of help and using it to pull myself back up again. Even though my journey’s not entirely over, and probably never will be, that’s what this site (and my ezine) is about.
I believe wholeheartedly that we are ALL here for a reason. I believe that each and every one of us has something special and unique to offer, even if we can’t always see that for ourselves. I look around and I just about everybody struggling to prove themselves to the people around them, to justify their lives through what they do, who they know, and most of all, what they own. None of this, though, really matters. What is truly important, and what seems to be least valued in our society, is WHO YOU ARE.
My goal is to help others, one person at a time, to re-connect with the kind of self-esteem we start out with when we’re born. To feel the confidence that lets them find and follow their dreams, regardless of what the world at large thinks. I imagine the kind of wonderful changes that can flow on from even one person who proudly tells the world “I’m being true to myself, and this is who I am. Take me or leave me – it doesn’t bother me either way, but just don’t think you can stop me from achieving what I was put here to do.”
There are so many obstacles to making it that far, though. I’ve found a lot of them as I’ve stumbled over them in my own journey. As I find more, I write about them in my newsletter to let as many other people know as I can. There are a lot that are covered in most of the books and courses out there already, but I’ve been trained to think differently to most. My interests mean I follow Psychology, Social Studies, Religious Studies, the occult, New Age spirituality, Philosophy and as much as I can of the millions of sources on Success principles that are out there. I read at least 4 books a week, plus audio, and I’ve been reading for over 32 years now. With that background, I tend to look at the bigger social issues for the subtle traps that can get you down and sabotage any progress you’re making, without you even realising it. I specialise in finding the hidden assumptions that we never question, until we trip over them and realise they were fencing us in. The biggest ones I’ve found so far include:
Hidden “failure programming” Messages in the Media
The shift from extended family to nuclear family
An emphasis on “competition” in everything from schooling to work
Increasing isolation and less sense of community
Personal denial of responsibility – and how we’re trained into it.
How do these affect us, and our individual sense of self-worth? I’m doing a final revision on a book about it, so you can watch this space to find out more, read the articles I’ve already posted up here, or better still, subscribe to my ezine to hear about what I discover on a month to month basis.