Even as a child, this counselee of mine did not receive enough praises
or encouragement from her parents and siblings. Only criticisms when
she erred. Naturally, her self-esteem was damaged. And it took its
toll in her married life.
Now, her husband gone to another woman, she lives as a single mother
to two kids and she is struggling to find a way to support them – both
materially and emotionally. In our sessions, I focused on her self-
esteem because I knew it was her low self-worth that made her repeat
harmful behavior patterns, which is her real problem. She has to
realize that she was a child of God. And this means she is loved.
The root of all codependency is a love hunger, which can be filled by
the Lord mainly.
That is why there is hope for those of us with a broken past. A good
grounding in the Lord will see us through.