Detaching with Love——
Sometimes people we love do things
we don’t like or approve of.
We react. They react. Before long,
we’re all reacting to each other,
and the problem escalates.
When do we detach?
When we’re hooked into a reaction of anger,
fear, guilt, or shame.
When we get hooked into a power play,
an attempt to control or force others to do
something they don’t want to do.
When the way we’re reacting isn’t helping
the other person or solving the problem.
When the way we’re reacting is hurting us.
Often, it’s time to detach when detachment
appears to be the least likely,
or possible, thing to do.
The first step toward detachment
is understanding that reacting and
controlling don’t help.
The next step is getting peaceful,
getting centered and restoring our balance.
Take a walk.
Leave the room.
Go to a meeting.
Take a long, hot bath.
Call a friend.
Call on God.
From that place of peace and centering
will emerge an answer, a solution.
I will surrender and trust that the answer is near.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990