Parenting does not come with a manual and many parents unfortunately get many crucial things wrong. Some get it right too. On the whole, most of us let our young folk down and we have been let down by our parents too. They are not always entirely to blame and neither are we as parents ourselves. Many of us have done the best we can with what little knowledge we knew at that time. We may have been parented by parents who themselves were not properly parented.
Some parents can be overbearing, not maternal by nature, cruel, over protective or simple not capable of doing the job right.
In adulthood we can change those things, we can start by parenting ourselves in a responsible manner. We can realise that we are now able to correct the way we see things. We can approach life in a different way.
Nurture yourself, love yourself, take care of yourself, listen to your gut, be good to yourself, teach yourself and listen to the voice in your head that praises you for the good you do and learn to change the things you feel are not the way you want them to be. Be the good person that you have become. No more blame, no more voices criticising and no more fear. No more doubting your ability and no more being harsh to yourself.
“A lot of mothers will do anything for their children, except let them be themselves.”
― Banksy, Wall and Piece
Right here, right now I am going be concentrate on parenting myself, changing the things I no longer feel to be important and replacing them with new ideas, new methods and realise that each day is new and I will approach it in a healthy way. I will let go of the critical voices in my head and remind myself that I do not have to be judgmental towards others. Concentrate on my own life and be good to myself, remembering along the way to be a responsible adult and make responsible decisions based on what I now know to be correct.