Peace

After the past few weeks of really awful news of terrorist attacks and general bad news in the media it was a refreshing change to watch the “One Love” Manchester concert this weekend. It is truly amazing to see people from all walks of life and different ages sharing their grief and emotions in a special way and celebrating all that is good about humanity.

I sometimes feel that I don’t do enough for society and want to change that by working even harder on my charity as well as and dedicating the rest of this month to posting more regularly than usual AND only posting articles that relate with peace.

For the month of July I will have the theme positivity and gratitude.

30 days of gratitude prompts

What smell are you grateful for today?
What technology are you grateful for?
What color are you grateful for?
What food are you most grateful for?
What sound are you grateful for today?
What in nature are you grateful for?
What memory are you grateful for?
What book are you most grateful for?
What place are you most grateful for?
What taste are you grateful for today?
What holiday are you grateful for?
What texture are you grateful for?
What abilities are you grateful for?
What sight are you grateful for today?
What season are you grateful for?
What about your body are you grateful for?
What knowledge are you grateful for?
What piece of art are you grateful for?
What touch are you grateful for today?
Who in your life are you grateful for?
What song are you most grateful for?
What story are you grateful for?
What tradition are you grateful for?
What challenge are you grateful for?
What moment this week are you most grateful for?
What form of expression are you most grateful for?
What small thing that you use daily are you grateful for?
What small thing that happened today are you grateful for?
What friend/family member are you grateful for today?
What talent or skill do you have that you are grateful for?

I found this on pinterest but linked to a website where I think it first originated
www.intuitionwellness.com

Meditation, prayer, yoga & journaling

We all want a better life and some of us don’t know where to start. Retreats are costly and not really practical for people with families. Some of the things we can do ourselves at home are free and easy to do.

Meditation quietens our mind, it gives us a chance to just be silent. It takes practice and like all things that are positive and good for our souls, this is simple to do in your own home. Even 10 minutes a day is enough time. Just find a quiet space and turn off your phone and even disconnect the front doorbell if you need to. Lie down on the bed and feel comfortable. Close your eyes and just relax. It is not a mysterious or mystical practice. It is simply just finding time “just be”. The more you meditate the more you will enjoy it.

Prayer is the easiest of the 4 spiritual practices that can be done anywhere at any time. It can be done in the car, shower, at work, in a sacred building, in bed and it is not necessary to close your eyes and get down on your hands and knees. You can pray anywhere about anything and at any time. Prayer is a wonderful way of connecting to your “God”, “higher self” and connecting to the universe. If you find prayer strange at first or you are not sure what to pray about, simply pray for someone or something that you have heard on the news or read about. There is always someone other than yourself that needs prayer. It is widely known that collective prayers is very powerful. Even praying with your partner can seem very odd at first but it can bring you very close to another person.

Yoga is a beautiful way to connect with the universe and stretch your body. It is strongly practiced for reducing stress and relaxing your body. It has been around for a long time in the East but it has not been popular for that long in the west. It has gained popularity and is a wonderful way to work out your body in a positive way. It is popular with all ages and all genders enjoy yoga.

Journaling has so many benefits for improving our lives. There is something so powerful about writing things down and then going back to look at the later. If you journal about your feelings you can easily see a pattern emerging and it is a good way to see how you can improve your life. When we write down how we feel it is more powerful and honest than when we just say it to ourselves. When you read back how you felt about something after a couple of days, it can reveal emotions that you didn’t realise were present. This is particularly true when we are upset or angry with someone. After time has passed and we refer back to what we have written about the person, we can feel silly or surprised we wrote what we did. This is also true about how we journal about work or other topics. This may show us just how unhappy with something we are feeling, it may highlight that a change in a career is likely to be a good idea. It is handy to jot down feelings and journal as often as possible.

So next time you feel your life is not how you want it to be, try one or all 4 of these spiritual practices in the comfort of your own home. You are guaranteed to feel better.

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Slow down – Life is not a race

Don’t run through life so fast that you forget not only where you’ve been, but also where you’re going. Life is not a race, but a journey to be savoured each step of the way.
Stephen Richards

How difficult we find it to just do nothing. To still our minds. To just “be”. It is probably one of the hardest things we can do. We run from pillar to post, our minds are always busy.

Practice just sitting outside on a chair and just staring up at the sky. Focus your mind on the brilliance of nature, on the sound of the wind, the chirping of the birds, the traffic, the plane going by. The children playing. We have so much to be thankful for and we need to slow down and take the time to enjoy the small things in life. The smell of flowers, the grass, the ocean. We are lucky to be here.

Slow down and enjoy each day. We can find 5 minutes in each day to just “be” – be still and know that we are exactly where we are meant to be.

We can be attentive to our own needs when we listen to our inner voice talking. We can achieve that only when we allow ourselves to quieten our minds.

What is the use of running, if you are not on the right road
German Proverb

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Everyone you meet is your mirror

“A loving person lives in a loving world. A hostile person lives in a hostile world: everyone you meet is your mirror.”
― Ken Keyes Jr.

How great it is to have the spiritual knowledge that everyone we come into contact with and the way we react to them and treat them is the way we would like to be treated. When we show hostility, impatience, resentment or annoyance to another person, that can be how we feel about ourselves. What we say and how we say it can be a reflection of what is in our own hearts.

Hostile people may be struggling with their own issues of fear, rejection, anger and unhappiness. Being kind to people even when they are not kind to you takes practice and patience. The more we practice loving others, the more we will grow spiritually to be a better person.

Do to others as you would have them do to you.
Luke 6:31 (The Bible)

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Procrastination – “Just do it”

The best way to get something done, is to begin – Anonymous

As we all know Procrastination is a negative reaction to things that need to be done. It is explained as the action of delaying or postponing something, dithering, stalling, temporizing and hesitation.

We can put things off but they do not go away, it is always better to take the approach and say to ourselves “Just do it”, get it done and move on. It will not go away so we are best to get whatever it is sorted and free up time for things we want to do.

Know the true value of time.
Snatch, seize and enjoy every
moment of it. No idleness, no
laziness, no procrastination.
Never put off till tomorrow
what you can do today.
Lord Chesterfield

Tiny Treasures
The Serenity Prayer book
pg 44

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Worries

Worry gives small things a big shadow. – Swedish Proverb

Sometimes we like to worry about things that are not worth worrying about but our mind goes into overdrive
and leads us to believe that small things are actually massive. Some people worry more than others and
it can take a lot of practice to learn to worry less.

We can toss and turn worries around in our head and this is especially true when we are in bed trying to
quieten out mind so we can fall asleep. Suddenly little worries become magnified. When we wake in the morning
we realise they are actually not that big a deal at all.

Worrying takes a lot of energy and can leave us feeling drained. At the end of the day, it is only action that
can get things done. Spending time on worrying can be better spent on other things.

“Worrying does not take away tomorrow’s troubles. It takes away today’s peace.” – Randy Armstrong

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Learning to love your own company

When we cannot bear to be alone, it means we do not properly value the only companion we will have from birth to death: ourselves.
– Eda J. Le Shan

Spending quality time alone can be the most rewarding of all company we are likely to keep. A relationship with ourselves and getting to really know ourselves is vital if we are to be happy.

If we make friends with ourselves, you will never be alone – according to Maxwell Maltz. How true are those words.

Enjoying your own company means you can be honest with yourself and feel your feelings, good or bad. You can quieten your mind and allow thoughts to come to you and address them as they need sorted. Sometimes it is nice when we do not have to please someone else and instead just pander to our own needs. This is particularly true when out shopping or listening to music.

Self value can be learnt and practiced. The more we spend time in our own company, the more we are likely to enjoy it and value ourselves. No one in the world knows us quite as well as we know ourselves, especially if we practice honesty and confront our fears head on.

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Honesty – Being honest with ourselves

It is not only the most difficult thing to know oneself,
but also the most inconvenient one too.
H W Shaw

To be a better person takes courage and a little bit of hard work. It means being brutally honest with ourselves.

It is easy to manipulate ourselves and be dishonest about our happiness, state of mind or sometimes exaggerating the truth or omitting a fact about something important to ourselves. The good news is that it is not that difficult to change. We can change this way of thinking and behaving and become honest. Honest about our shortcomings, proud of our achievements and content with the person we really are. We do not have to put ourselves down, be martyrs, be a show off or have unrealistic expectations of ourselves. Becoming honest people does not mean we are going to beat ourselves up, it is the exact opposite. We love ourselves enough to take responsibility for things that we have previously not tackled, ignored or have not been honest about.

When the facts are staring us in the face, lets embrace them and accept them. Lets begin our plan of action just like it is quoted in the famous Serenity Prayer, we need to “change the things we can, accept the things we cannot and have the wisdom to know the difference.” If we know we need to loose weight or end a friendship that is toxic and has been making us unhappy or if we can no longer attend party, we will be honest and address these issues. We won’t be sweeping them under the carpet any longer.

One issue at a time, we set realistic goals, be gentle with ourselves, keep focused on self love & self honesty.

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Attitude of gratitude

We are injured and hurt emotionally
~ not so much by other people
or what they say or don’t say ~
but by our own attitude
and our own response.

Maxwell Maltz

Today is as good a day as any for changing our attitude and reaping the rewards. Our attitude can keep us from doing our best. It stifles our growth and sometimes hurts ourselves and others too.

Adapting an attitude of gratitude can help us from falling into a negative way of thinking and behaving that is destructive and prevents us from being truly happy and content. There is always something to be grateful for, no matter how small and insignificant it may seem.

We can practice by replacing thoughts of negativity with positivity, despair with hope and starting from today we can have a new plan of action for taking responsibility for our own way of thinking.

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