Do more

Do more than exist. LIVE
Do more than hear. LISTEN
Do more than agree. COOPERATE
Do more thank talk. COMMUNICATE
Do more than grow. BLOOM
Do more than spend. INVEST
Do more than think. CREATE
Do more than work. EXCEL
Do more than share. GIVE
Do more than decide. DISCERN
Do more than consider. COMMIT
Do more than forgive. FORGET
Do more than help. SERVE
Do more than coexist. RECONCILE
Do more than sing. WORSHIP
Do more thank think. PLAN
Do more than dream. DO
Do more than see. PERCEIVE
Do more than read. APPLY
Do more than receive. RECIPROCATE
Do more than choose. FOCUS
Do more than wish. BELIEVE
Do more than advise. HELP
Do more than speak. IMPART
Do more than encourage. INSPIRE
Do more than add. MULTIPLY
Do more than change. IMPROVE
Do more than reach. STRETCH
Do more than ponder. PRAY

Keep in mind by Clifford N Lazarus

Keep in mind:

The meek shall inherit the earth because the aggressive people of the world will trample their face into it!

Despite the Biblical decree, if you always turn the other cheek all you’ll end up with is a completely sore face.

To encourage positive and discourage offensive behavior:

• Do not reward behaviors in others that you wish to eliminate.

• Follow actor Alan Alda’s advice: “Be fair with others, but then keep after them until they’re fair with you.”

• Learn to speak up assertively.

• Do not reward unkind behavior from others.

• If someone treats you badly, say so – do not smile and pretend it’s okay.

Remember: Think well, act well, feel well, be well!

Copyright by Clifford N. Lazarus, Ph.D.

Don’t judge yourself for judging

Don’t Judge Yourself for Judging
Lency Spezzano

The tricky thing about judgment is that it is sticky. If you judge anyone about anything, you will manifest that same quality in yourself or in your life. Here’s a cute example.

While I was growing up I heard my mother speak negatively about her mother on only two occasions. Once, while she and I were waiting in the checkout line at the grocery store, she mentioned how her mother embarrassed her in such situations. “She never saw a stranger. She would just talk to anybody like she knew them.” The other embarrasment was that Grandma always had big round bright pink patches on her cheeks (it looked a bit like she used food coloring rather than rouge). Mom told me once that she hated that as a kid because she was afraid people would think Grandma was a tart.

Now that Mom is getting on in years herself, she talks to everyone, everywhere. She walks up and has long conversations with people in restaurants who are trying to eat their meals. She has special radar for ministers and their families, with whom she inerrably launches into the story about how she was a lingerie model before the war. And, of course, she sports highly rouged cheeks.

Yes, that’s right. We become exactly like our parents in all those ways we hated, and we will continue to be that way until we get out of denial about it and forgive them and ourselves.

Judgment is our only problem, the cause of our experience of separation. If we gave up judging, we would go straight to enlightenment.

We have guilt and self judgment that first started back when we separated from God and assumed that that must have hurt Him. Terrified that God will punish us, we sweep the guilt under the carpet through the use of denial and projection. But we can learn from our judgments on others if we can stop and recognize that they are the projections of our own negative beliefs about ourselves. If we weren’t judging others, how else could we recognize our projected self concepts, own them back and heal them?

Many times, when people are first learning about the concept of projection, they are willing to own back their projections, but then get stuck with guilt because they make themselves the bad guy. The ego is perfectly willing to shift the guilt back to you, as long as someone is still seen to be guilty.

It is that third step, the one that comes after recognizing a projection and owning it, that is a little more challenging, because to do it you must step out of the paradigm of guilt. You must be willing to turn that feeling of guilt over to the Holy Spirit (or whatever name you have for the aspect of God or Higher Self that reaches here into this world) to let it be taken away from you. If you can feel the guilt and offer it up, it will be taken and you will be freed of that self concept. You will also be helping those whom you have been projecting upon.

So don’t judge yourself for judging – just catch yourself, own it and turn it over. The movie that you see played out as your life can then become a fascinating revelation of the interesting beliefs you have about yourself that you are willing to be wrong about. When that movie has played out, and you see only innocence on every face you see, you will be free.

Lency Spezzano

Symptoms of inner peace

~ Symptoms of Inner Peace ~

A tendency to think and act spontaneously rather than on fears based
on past experiences
An unmistakable ability to enjoy each moment

A loss of interest in judging other people

A loss of interest in interpreting the actions of others

A loss of interest in conflict

A loss of the ability to worry

Frequent, overwhelming episodes of appreciation

Contented feelings of connectedness with others and nature

Frequent attacks of smiling

An increased susceptibility to the love extended by others as well
as the uncontrollable urge to extend it

Peace Pilgrim, 1908-1981

Just be you

Don’t date because you are desperate.
Don’t marry because you are miserable.
Don’t have kids because you think your genes are superior.
Don’t philander because you think you are irresistible.

Don’t associate with people you can’t trust.
Don’t cheat. Don’t lie. Don’t pretend.
Don’t dictate because you are smarter.
Don’t demand because you are stronger.

Don’t sleep around because you think you are old enough and know better.
Don’t hurt your kids because loving them is harder.
Don’t sell yourself, your family, or your ideals.
Don’t stagnate.

Don’t regress.
Don’t live in the past. Time can’t bring anything or anyone back.
Don’t put your life on hold for possibly Mr/Mrs Right.
Don’t throw your life away on absolutely Mr Wrong because your biological clock is ticking.

Learn a new skill.
Find a new friend.
Start a new career.
Sometimes, there is no race to be won. Only a price to be paid for some of life’s more hasty decisions.

To terminate your loneliness, reach out to the homeless.
To feed your nurturing instincts, care for the needy.
To fulfil your parenting fantasies, get a puppy.
Don’t bring another life into this world for all the wrong reasons.

To make yourself happy, pursue your passions and be the best of what you can be.
Simplify your life. Take away the clutter.
Get rid of destructive elements: abusive friends, nasty habits, and dangerous liaisons.
Don’t abandon your responsibilities but don’t overdose on duty.

Don’t live life recklessly without thought and feeling for your family.
Be true to yourself.
Don’t commit when you are not ready.
Don’t keep others waiting needlessly.

Go on that trip. Don’t postpone it.
Say those words. Don’t let the moment pass.
Do what you have to, even at society’s scorn.

Write poetry.
Love Deeply.
Walk barefoot.
Dance with wild abandon.
Cry at the movies.

Take care of yourself. Don’t wait for someone to take care of you.
You light up your life.
You drive yourself to your destination.
No one completes you – except YOU.

It is true that life does not get easier with age. It only gets more challenging.
Don’t be afraid.
Don’t lose your capacity to love.
Pursue your passions.

Live your dreams.
Don’t lose faith in your God.
Don’t grow old. Just grow YOU!

Connect with your Higher Self

Reconnect With Your Higher Self

Step 1
Forgive yourself and others. Do not hold on to the past. Realize that you don’t have to “forgive and forget”. You can still acknowledge that you or someone else did something “wrong” while at the same time forgiving. Non-forgiveness binds you energetically to the other person and your lower self/ego.

Step 2
Do a 7 Day Evaluation. Write down every time you engage in bad habits and negative energy (such as anger, doubt, fear, worry, discouragement, resentment, etc.) At the end of the evaluation, list what you consider to be your worst habits and momentum. Then resolve to go after them one by one and overcome them! Awareness begins the undoing – intention, determination and focus continues the dissolving of bad habits and negative momentum.

Step 3.
Identify and get rid of limiting beliefs. We all pick up limiting, false beliefs along the way which keep us from being all we can be. Those beliefs can even cause pain and suffering. Resolve to really look at the things you believe in and WHY you have the belief. Realize that no one is forcing you to believe anything and that beliefs are NOT a part of who you really are! Determine to keep an open mind and know that limiting beliefs are keeping you from fully connecting with your True Self. Clearly see that false beliefs are restricting you from experiencing all the goodness of life, as well as contributing to suffering and a sense of struggle in life. Determine to let them go!

Step 4.
Build Positive Momentum. Developing and maintaining positive momentum is essential on the spiritual path and will help you reconnect more fully with your Higher Self. Each day focus on one positive momentum you would like to work on and commit to integrating it throughout the day. For example: keeping your harmony, being more joyful, helping others, etc.

Step 5
Fill every day with gratitude. As you go through your day, regularly express your gratefulness for everything you can think of – the wonderful day, the beautiful flowers, the sunshine, your spouse, the smile on your child’s face, your family’s health, and on and on. Let gratitude fill your heart and you’ll be surprised to see what a difference this will make! Gratefulness opens the doorway to your True Self.

Step 6
Maintain Harmony.
Harmony is one of the major keys – if not THE major key – on the path to raising your consciousness and reuniting with your Higher Self. Harmony is an internal quality springing from the heart and not just an external expression. Harmony involves mastering your emotions and not letting them control you. State your clear intention to be centered in Harmony and to be harmonious in every situation you meet. Keep centered in the heart as much as possible and focus on peace and harmony.

Step 7
Practice Non-Reaction.
Reacting negatively to situations destroys harmony. Realize that in every situation you can choose to react in a positive way or a negative way – that’s up to you. There is always a split second before you react to something where you DO have a choice. Even if you react in a negative way initially, you have the choice to continue to react and revolve the situation, or to let it go! Diffuse a negative reaction by centering in your heart and breathing deeply. This will help connect you with your Higher Self.

Step 8
Learn to stay neutral.
Neutral is a powerful state of emotional balance and inner quiet and peace. It is a place of equilibrium where you are more able to access the wisdom of your Higher Self. Learning to stay neutral is a key to becoming non-reactive to situations. Being neutral is not a state of not feeling anything, but rather a state where you are in balance with your emotional responses to what is happening – neither reacting negatively or becoming overly excited.

Step 9
Live in the moment.
Much of suffering comes from not living in the now. Our minds are unbelievably powerful when focused, but most of that power is lost by not living in the moment. The Present is where your power is! Most importantly, you can only connect with your Higher Self when you are in the present. Learn to let go of the past, projecting into the future, worrying and anything else that takes you away from the present moment. Peace is in the now!

Step 10
Surrender.
One of the most important things we can do to reconnect with our Higher Self is to surrender – let go of that which causes us pain, suffering, unhappiness, and limitation. As long as we are primarily operating from our lower self/ego, we are unfortunately tying ourselves to those very things. When negative emotions arise, the key is to immediately surrender them to God/the Universal. If you find yourself reluctant to surrender something or find you are still revolving the same thing over and over along with the negative emotions, you need to ask yourself why – what is the payoff? What is the “juice” the lower self is feeding on? (“poor me”, “look how I was wronged”, etc.) Realize that whatever the ego is holding on to, it will continue to cause you grief and suffering until you are willing to surrender it completely! Remember – you have a choice – to continue to hold on to negative emotions and suffering – or to surrender them and as a result, find more happiness and peace in your life.

Step 11
Let go.
Realize that we cannot control everything and the events in our life through the human self. Sometimes it is necessary to “let go and let God”. Letting go involves surrendering yourself (and your ego!) to a higher force, and the ego does not like that at all. As you connect more and more to your Higher Self, surrendering and letting go becomes less difficult. Letting go also means surrendering fears, worries and insecurities and trusting God/the Universe that everything will work out.

Step 12
Meditate.
Meditation is essential on the spiritual path. If you are to connect with your Higher Self, you must be able to still the mind through meditation. Through that inner quietness, you can then learn to listen to the “still, small voice within” of your True Self. Meditation is a key which can open the door to higher perception, unlocking the perfect wisdom in your very own heart! Through quieting the mind and focusing your attention, you will allow your own innate inner wisdom to flow into your awareness.

The four universal healing salves

The four universal healing salves.

In many shamanic societies, if you came to a shaman or medicine person complaining of being disheartened, dispirited, or depressed, they would ask one of four questions.

When did you stop dancing?

When did you stop singing?

When did you stop being enchanted by stories?

When did you stop finding comfort in the sweet territory of silence?

Where we have stopped dancing, singing, being enchanted by stories, or finding comfort in silence is where we have experienced the loss of soul.

Dancing, singing, storytelling, and silence are the four universal healing salves.

~ The Four-Fold Way: Walking the Paths of the Warrior, Healer, Teacher and Visionary

Gifts that you can afford

THE GIFT OF LISTENING

But you must REALLY listen.

No interrupting, no daydreaming, no planning your response. Just listening.

THE GIFT OF AFFECTION

Be generous with appropriate hugs, kisses, pats on the back and handholds. Let these small actions demonstrate the love you have for family and friends.

THE GIFT OF LAUGHTER

Clip cartoons. Share articles and funny stories. Your gift will say, “I love to laugh with you”.

THE GIFT OF A WRITTEN NOTE

It can be a simple “Thanks for the help” note or a full sonnet. A brief, handwritten note may be remembered for a lifetime, and may even change a life.

THE GIFT OF A COMPLIMENT

A simple and sincere, “You look great in red”, “You did a super job” or “That was a wonderful meal” can make someone’s day.

THE GIFT OF A FAVOR

Every day, go out of your way to do something kind.

THE GIFT OF SOLITUDE

There are times when we want nothing better than to be left alone. Be sensitive to those times and give the gift of solitude to others.

THE GIFT OF A CHEERFUL DISPOSITION

The easiest way to feel good is to make other feel good.

Random acts of kindness ideas

Send someone a hand written note of thanks.
Make a card at home and send it to a friend for no reason.
Buy a lottery ticket for a stranger.
Put some coins in someone else’s parking meter.
Buy a coffee for the man on the high street selling The Big Issue magazine.
Cut your neighbour’s hedge.
Walk your friend’s dog.
Give a compliment about your waiter / waitress to his / her manager.
Send someone a small gift anonymously.
Stop and help someone replace their flat tyre.
Let someone jump the queue at the bank.
Pay for the drinks on the next table at a café.
Treat a friend to the movies for no reason.
Give a huge tip to someone when they least expect it.
Hold the train door open for someone rushing to get in.
Give up your seat for someone, not just an elderly person.
Write notes of appreciation at least once a week.
Talk to a homeless person and have a “normal” conversation.
Pick up some rubbish in the road which would otherwise be lying around.
Compliment a work colleague for their excellence.
Recommend a competitor to a potential client.
Give another driver your parking spot.
Give a piece of fruit to a delivery person.
Help an elderly neighbour carry the rubbish out.
Tell all your family members how much your appreciate them.
Leave a copy of an interesting book on a train / bus.
Buy an inspirational book for a friend.
Send a thank you note to a person who has helped you in the past.
Smile a lot.

(taken from lifehack.org)

* Support your local charity store and buy something from them or offer your time.

Listen to the wisdom of your inner voice

Follow the steps below and commune with this wise inner guide. It will help you create a greater contribution to others and possibly even a legacy.

Stand relaxed with your hands loosely at your side.
Take a few deep breaths. Inhale and exhale through the nose slowly.
Tilt your head up 30 degrees.
Turn your eyes up another 30 degrees, until you are looking forward and upward.
Close your eyelids and let them become relaxed.
Think about something or someone you are truly and deeply grateful for.
Keep thinking and thanking until you feel your heart has truly opened up and you have even experienced a tear of inspiration.
Upon attaining a grateful state, now ask your inner voice for any guiding message. Ask, “Inner voice do you have a message for me at this moment?”
When you are grateful enough and you ask for a message a message will clearly come.
Write this message down.

If your message does not become immediately and clearly revealed, repeat steps 6 through 10 until it does.

When you are truly grateful you will receive amazing and inspiring inner messages. These messages will be more powerful than might at first be apparent. The master, the genius, is the one who listens carefully. When you are grateful and your heart becomes opened, you will have revealed before your mind, the inner message you would love to fulfill. These priceless gems of guiding revelation will assist you in living a life of greatness.

Following Your Inspirations and Intuitions

Be sure to act on your inspirations as soon as possible. When you don’t follow the inspirations and intuitions of your inner voice promptly you can begin to emotionally beat your self up. This is not terrible though for it is simply part of the grand and magnificent design of conscious evolution. It is a blessing for it assures that no matter what happens, you will eventually learn and gradually or immediately unfold your inner spiritual mission, talent, and destiny. Life events will at times force you to listen to that wise voice within. The inspired beings throughout history learned to follow it. Those who have ignored it have passed by many opportunities it could have provided.

For decades many psychologist have considered individuals who have heard their inner voices as bordering on the edge of sanity. But, if you look carefully at the many great spiritual leaders, scientists, artists, musicians and social leaders, they regularly listened to their inner voices. They gratefully awakened this special inner communion regularly. The great philosophers have stated that they would rather have the whole world against them than their own inner soul. Today, you have an opportunity for expanding your greatness. When your wise and masterful voice on the inside becomes greater than the many little voices on the outside a life of great fulfillment, wisdom and genius can become yours.