Three things in life

Three Things In Life:

Three things in life that,
once gone, never come back:

Time, Words & Opportunity

Three things in life that
may never be lost:

Peace, Hope & Honesty.

Three things in life that
are most valuable:

Love, Self-confidence & Friends

Three things in life that
are never certain:

Dreams, Success & Fortune

Three things that make a man:

Hard work, Sincerity & Commitment

Three things in life that
can destroy a man:

Wine, Pride & Anger

Five tips for getting organised

Five Tips for Getting Organised

1. Focus on your priorities

There’s no point simplifying your life if you haven’t examined your reasons why. Identify your personal priorities – what’s most important to you. Then use these values as your reference point to keep your life simplifying goals on track. Continually explore the gap between what you value and the reality of your current life. Ultimately, you should be eliminating petty nuisances and clutter that conflict with your priorities.
2. Organise your space

Clear clutter, put systems in place to manage your daily life and have a home for everything. Whether its at home or work if you organise your physical surroundings you’ll feel better prepared for daily life. Life really is less stressful when you are organised. Sure, you will still have a zillion things to do, but at least you will not waste more valuable time searching for items.
3. Plan and prepare

The secret of successful people who lead a balanced life is planning and preparation. Prepare ahead of time wherever possible to increase your efficiency and you will feel more in control. Eliminate the stress inducing non-essential tasks from your daily life. Simplify wherever possible and you will feel a thousand times better for it. By planning and preparing well you will be able to focus on your priorities with better concentration and commitment.
4. Minimise time traps

Don’t let emails, telephones, TV, the internet or constant interruptions rule your life. Track your time so you can identify where you are wasting time. Then plan a realistic schedule that rids you forever of nasty time traps. Use technology to your advantage, but manage it well.

Also, forget prescriptive time management plans, instead experiment with ideas that fit your lifestyle.
5. Create quiet time

In today’s frantic daily rush many of us forget to relax or simply think we can’t spare the time. No matter how busy you think you are, focusing on your self-care can’t be ignored. Admittedly, in the real world, its not viable to write in a journal or do yoga for three hours a day.

Think instead of what you can do to help rejuvenate. Maybe a bubble bath, listening to music, gardening or walking. Choose an activity you enjoy that will allow you to quieten your mind and unwind. Acknowledge how important it is to relax and make it a regular daily habit to replenish your energy levels and help you refocus on your priorities.

http://www.fionaharrold.com/articles/getorganised.html

Daily moral inventory – eliminate the negative

DAILY MORAL INVENTORY
ELIMINATE THE NEGATIVE

LIABILITIES
WATCH FOR:

Self Pity
Self Justification
Self Importance
Self Condemnation
Dishonesty
Impatience
Hate
Resentment
False Pride
Jealousy
Envy
Laziness
Procrastination
Insincerity
Negative Thinking
Immoral Thinking
Criticising

ACCENTUATE THE POSITIVE

ASSETS
STRIVE FOR:
Self Forgetfulness
Humility
Modesty
Self Valuation
Honesty
Patience
Love
Forgiveness
Simplicity
Trust
Generosity
Activity
Promptness
Straightforwardness
Positive Thinking
Spiritual Thinking
Look for the Good

How to handle difficult people

How to Handle Difficult People

A bully at your work is difficult for you to face. He is demanding you do part of his job without pay or credit. How do you handle it?

Your neighbors are constantly fighting. They wake you up in the middle of the night with their screams and curses. What do you say to them?

Your father is unhappy about your career choice. He constantly criticizes your work and points out what he thinks you should do. How do you deal with him?

Difficult situations are part of everyone’s life. Employers and employees can’t get along. Partners clash over money. Spouses cannot resolve disagreements.

If you ignore these situations, they always get worse. Employees get fired, partnerships and marriages break up, everyone is miserable.

Waiting and worrying, the most common “solution,” also allows the problem to get worse while giving you stress and shortening your life span.

If you attack the person, at least you are trying to fix the problem. But attacks, rage or irrational anger gives you a bad name, makes people afraid of you and reduces honest communication.

Disconnecting from the problem or from the person is not always wise or practical. Losing employees, supporters and friends because you needlessly disassociate from them may reduce your stress, but you might also become lonely and poor.

The Best Solution Is to Confront and Handle People

“The ability to stand up to and confront and handle whatever comes the way of the organization depends utterly on the ability of the individuals of the organization to stand up to, confront and handle what comes the individual’s way.” — L. Ron Hubbard

When you face and resolve the problem yourself, you feel wonderful. You are in control of your life. You not only conquer the opposition, you conquer your fear. Few accomplishments are more satisfying than confronting someone who is difficult to face and handling the conflict.

How to Confront and Handle Someone

By getting organized and working out a plan of action, confronting and handling people becomes much easier. The key is your preparation.

“THE SUCCESS OF ANY EVENT IS DIRECTLY PROPORTIONAL TO THE TIMELY PREPARATION.” — L. Ron Hubbard

Follow these seven steps to prepare yourself for dealing with the difficult people in your life.

1. Make the decision to face up to the person directly and by yourself.

2. Write down the exact problem you need to handle and your goal for the confrontation.

Examples of problems to be confronted that you might write down:

“Joe is refusing to pay me despite our agreement.”

“Chris is hurting office morale and causing me stress with her continual complaining.”

“Bob is supposedly telling people that my work is inferior and I am dishonest.”

Once you specifically name or identify the problem, write down a goal for the meeting. “By the end of the meeting, I want . . . .”

Examples of goals or objectives you might want as a result of a confrontation:

“Joe pays me in full.”

“Chris stops complaining or leaves.”

“Learn the truth about Bob’s comments and if true, get him to stop it.”

In some cases, your objective may also state:

“Figure out if I want this person as a partner/employee/boss/friend.”

3. Write down a Plan or List of Points You Need to Make to Support Your Goal: Facts, Reasons and explanations you may need the other person to understand. List the points in order of priority or importance.

For example, to get Joe to understand why he must pay you, you might make these points:

A. Joe requested the service.

B. Joe signed an agreement to pay for the service.

C. We provided the service as promised.

D. Joe was happy with the service.

E. Etc.

4. Write down objections, reactions or disagreements the other person may have. Include everything you are afraid might happen during the meeting. Putting specific concerns and fears in writing reduces their impact on you.

For each objection, reaction or disagreement you expect will happen, write a solution of how you will deal with each.

5. Organize your notes and gather supportive documents.

6. Arrange the meeting where you will not be disturbed, preferably in a space you control.

7. Start the meeting.

A. Look the person directly in the eye.

B. Explain the specific problem you want to resolve as you noted in Step 2.

C. Go over your first point on the list from Step 3.

D. Listen carefully to the other person and make certain they feel understood.

E. Hold a position on your points.

F. Use your solutions to their reactions as you worked out in Step 4.

G. Continue describing your points and listening to the person’s side.

H. Do not give up. Communicate and persist for as long as it takes to reach your goal.

The more frequently you confront and handle difficult people, the easier it becomes. The amount of time it takes to prepare for a confrontation decreases. You become strong and tough.

When you confront and handle everyone around you, people respect you for your courage, your honesty and your control. Your associates, employees or coworkers follow your example and become more productive. Your enemies either become harmless or become friends.

Taking positive organized action, despite fear, is the kind of courage all successful people must have to succeed.
http://www.tipsforsuccess.org/difficult-people.htm

Here I GROW again

HERE I GROW AGAIN
By Bob Perks

I sat on the hill in my yard a while and wondered about the day. I wanted to
know what tomorrow will bring and what to do with yesterday. I have thought
these thoughts a million times and each time just gave in.

But I discovered today that the answer lies not what I’m without, but what’s
within. This grand revelation came from watching my dog play with a blade of
grass. We’ve had some heavy rains the last few days and I haven’t had the
opportunity to just sit outside. But today the clouds gave way to the sun
and at least for a few minutes I was able to catch up on my thinking. It was
when I looked down at a blade of grass that I discovered the answers I had
been searching for all this time. You see, no matter how many times I cut
that grass it always grows back. It thrives if there’s too much rain and
survives if there is a drought. You can walk on it and it springs back up.
You can dig it up and throw it somewhere else and it will grow right where
it lies.

If a blade of grass can do all that, why are we so fragile? You would think
that God would have made the human being a lot more durable than that. Why
is it that after a few times that life cuts you down, you decide not to grow
any more? Why is it that when we hit the dry times in our lives we curl up
and die in spirit? Why is it that when the big guys walk all over you, you
don’t spring back up to where you rightfully belong? Why is it that when
life uproots your plans you can never see the potential for new growth
wherever you are? Do you think for a moment that God created a blade of
grass to be more than you?

Just like the answers were in that blade of grass, so are the answers within
you. The blade of grass was God’s way of telling me to “bloom where you are
planted.” Here, I grow again!

Self Affirmation

SELF-AFFIRMATION

I found God in myself
& I loved her/I loved her fiercely
– Ntozake Shange

What better place to find God than within ourselves!
It is only when we really know ourselves and affirm our-
selves for who we are that we become aware of the divin-
ity that we share with all things. We are part of the
hologram … we are the hologram. When we estrange
ourselves from ourselves, we also then lose contact with
that which is beyond ourselves.
To know “God” and to love her fiercely is to love our-
selves. Loving this God is not loving the self-centred
“God” of confusion. It is loving the God that is one, that
is within us, and beyond us. It is loving God as we
understand God.

CONTACT with God is so simple, and we make it so difficult.

taken from Meditation for women who do too much
by Anne Wilson Schaef

Wake Up

Wake Up!
by Marguerite Walton

As I sat in my garden, a bird began to sing. Somehow the song seemed
to be saying: “Wake up and open the door of vision to your blessings.
Do not make single or assorted troubles the most important things in
your life. It takes as much energy to exercise a fear and worry state
of mind as to stimulate one of faith and happiness.

To be happy takes much less energy than to be miserable, for God meant
every one of His children to be happy. When they are not, they are out
of tune with the Infinite.

The song came to an end, but the ripples of the brook, sparkling in
the sunbeams that reached it through the young leaves, seemed to carry
on the theme. Wake up!
Remember worry never solved a problem or paid a bill; it just pyramids
an insignificant anxiety into something as unwieldy as the Old Man of
the Sea.

Try taking your troubles out into the sunshine, and the first thing
you know, whatever you thought was too heavy to bear will have
vanished like the dew. There is something magical about sunshine;
sunbeams are radiant children of light that bore with golden gimlets
into the darkest corner of your soul to let in God’s warmth and
courage and faith.

Time is the most precious thing life has to offer. Look for
opportunity in every hour, every minute in every day. Get rid of the
“ifs” and “buts” that can create seemingly insurmountable barriers;
try the “I won’t fail” way, and see obstacles flatten the way a hill
flattens as you climb it step by step.

Copyright C Marguerite Walton. All Rights Reserved.

3 things in life

Three Things In Life

Three things in life that, once gone, never come back –
1. Time
2. Words
3. Opportunity

Three things in life that may never be lost –
1. Peace
2. Hope
3. Honesty

Three thing s in life that are most valuable –
1. Love
2. Self-confidence
3. Friends

Three things in life that are never certain –
1. Dreams
2. Success
3. Fortune

Three things that make a person –
1. Hard work
2. Sincerity
3. Commitment

Three things in life that can destroy a person –
1. Addictions
2. Pride
3. Anger

Three things that are truly constant –
Father – Son – Holy Ghost

I ask the Lord to bless you, as I pray for you today;
To guide you and protect you, as you go along your way.
God’s love is always with you, God’s promises are true.
And when you give God all your cares,
you know He’ll see you through.

Self Love

How to Love Yourself

Louise Hay offers
these helpful suggestions.
Try them! They really work.

1. Stop all criticism: Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you criticize yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are positive.

2. Don’t scare yourself: Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It’s a dreadful way to live. Find a mental image that gives you pleasure (mine is yellow roses), and immediately switch your scary thought to a pleasure thought.

3. Be gentle and kind and patient: Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient
with yourself as you learn the new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you
really loved.

4. Be kind to your mind: Self-hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don’t hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change the thoughts.

5. Praise yourself: Criticism breaks the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.

6. Support yourself: Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends, and allow them to help you. It is being strong to ask for help when you need it.

7. Be loving to your negatives: Acknowledge that you created them to fulfill a need. Now you are finding new, positive ways to fulfill those needs. So. lovingly release the old negative patterns.

8. Take care of your body: Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about exercise. What kind of exercise can you enjoy? Cherish and revere the temple you live in.

9. Mirror work: Look into your own eyes often. Express this growing sense of love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself looking into the mirror. Talk to your parents looking into the mirror. Forgive them, too. At least once a day, say: “I love you, I really love you!”

10. LOVE YOURSELF – DO IT NOW! Don’t wait until you get well or lose the weight, or get the new job, or find the new relationship. Begin NOW – do the best you can.

Keeping Conscious

Keeping Conscious
Staying Grounded In A Busy World

1. Live simply and live deliberately. By choosing not to get caught up in the details of this fast-paced world, you are doing your part to slow down the . You will also discover that you have more time to enjoy being alive.

2. Stay in touch with yourself. Soul searching, meditation, and journaling are just a few of the many activities you can take part in to stay aware and learn as much as you can about your emotions, reactions, likes, dislikes, dreams, and fears. Having a solid sense of self gives you a firm foundation for living in this world.

3. Support or teach others as often as you can. This can help you form connections with people while also giving you an opportunity to make the world a better place.

4. Consciously choose what you will allow into your being. The media bombards us with visions of hate, war, and pain. Be judicious about what you read, watch, and listen to.

5. Acknowledge the beauty that resides around you. Whether you live in a sprawling metropolis or a stereotypical suburb, there are natural and man-made wonders just waiting to be discovered by you.

6. Nurture your ties to your tribe. If you don’t have one, create a community that you can belong to. Modern life can be isolating. When you have a tribe, you have a circle that you are a part of. Its members – loved ones, friends, or neighbors – can be a source of support, caring, guidance, and companionship.

7. See the larger picture. Remember that the way that you choose to live is not the only way to live. Widen your perspective by exploring other modes of being through research, travel, and discussion.

8. Embrace the challenges that life presents to you, and challenge yourself often. After a time, even the most exciting jobs or lifestyles can seem routine. Never stop assimilating new knowledge about whatever you are doing, and your life will never seem dull.

9. Move your body. In this busy world, it can be easy to live a sedentary life. Movement reacquaints us with our bodies and connects us to the earth in a visceral way. It also restores our vitality.

10. Make time for stillness, silence, and solitude. The world can be noisy, and we are subject to all kinds of noises nearly every waking hour. We are also often “on the go” and unable to relax. Being alone in a peaceful place and making time for quiet can help you stay in touch with yourself.