Don’t take yourself too seriously There is almost no greater joy for your personality than when you fully believe the rules and the complex image he made of your life. The idea is that it is very bad when you make mistakes or are not acknowledged for your point of view. That the world will surely fall apart when you forgive someone without him or her having apologized to you first, or at least has crawled through the dust. Rules like you have to eat with fork and knife, love does not exist except in some rare occasions, you have to be in time for your work, your vision is right, like that when you sneeze you have to put your hand in front of your mouth, it is essential that you somehow communicate your feelings of uneasiness when someone does something that you do not like. Etcetera.
Comedians will make us laugh at ourselves in a quite harmless way, because we recognize the situations that they use, but it does not come too close so that your personality has to see it as a personal attack (and needs to defend himself). In Holland there once was a famous show about a hippy figure from the sixties, who opposed almost everything the people thought was normal in those days. But the performer did it in such a way, that everybody had to laugh. Laughing at yourself can make a difference in some way, be it more or less conscious.
Since you have laughed about something you took very serious before, might ring a little bell within you that could help you to remember that a situation may not be the way you always thought it to be. The serious way in which you used to defend your point of view, now may be a little less worth while to give your energy to. Even columnists, comedy writers and other light hearted program makers can do this. There is a Dutch program in which the news of the last week is commented on in a very funny way. This makes you aware of at least two ways you can interpret a news item: funny or sad, depending on the person who brings it to you and the way he tells it.
There is not one truth, not one way of looking at the world. The way you look at it is not the ultimate truth. So what? Then why are you so frantically defending it? Be a bit more of a comedian in your own life by not taking yourself too serious, your personality is likely to have less chances of becoming stronger and stronger, and that saves you time and energy. The only thing you know for sure is that the way that you experience something, is the result of the way that your personality applies all rules and judgments, and that no one will have exactly the same set of rules. You may know the saying: when you are a doctor, everybody seems to be a patient, which expresses the one-sidedness of your focus. While the rest of the world knows better!
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