The best place to find a helping hand is at the end of your arm.
Being helpless is a powerful ploy. With it we can keep others in bondage to our needs. We can manipulate and control them by appealing to their desire to be helpful and their sense of guilt. They will resent us for taking advantage of their good intentions, and when two people are stuck in co-dependent relationships, neither one is looking out for their well being in a healthy manner.
Self-preservation means to use our hands, our heads and our hearts to help ourselves. When we can do this, then the give and take of healthy relationships will find its rhythm.
I choose to be self-reliant when I can, but ask for help when I genuinely need it.
Throughout the day there will be many times when I need the help of others, and many times when others will need my help. I will give and receive help gratefully.
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