1. Caretaking
2. Accommodating – People Pleasing
3. Controlling
4. Rescuing – Mr. or Mrs Fix It
5. Repressing Feelings
6. Numbing out – not knowing what our feelings are.
7. Not dealing with our feelings appropriately
8/ Manipulation
9. Not taking responsibility for ourselves e.g. emotional and financial
10 Constant Worrying
11 Constantly criticizing ourselves and our effort, also having
difficulty receiving compliments.
12 Feeling we can’t do it well enough
13 Feeling that only we can do it well enough therefore unable to delegate.
14 Quiet grudges and stifled anger.
15 Gossiping!!!!
16 Not liking or loving ourselves
17 Not nurturing ourselves or allowing ourselves to receive the nurturing
we want and need.
18 Neglecting physical health (Exercise, good food and personal appearance)
19 Using Denial as a coping tool – “I am fine” when you’re not
20 Feeling victimized
21 Allowing ourselves to ve victimized
22 Not setting boundaries
23 Rage and hysterical outbursts
24 Not trusting our feelings and instincts
25 Not trusting our Higher Power
26 Not trusting Life and Recovery
27 Feeling unsafe
28 Lack of intimacy and fulfillment in a relationship
29 Earned and unearned guilt
30 Sexual behavior e.g. having sex with people when we don’t really want to
or engaging in sexual behaviors we aren’t comfortable with.
31 Chemical dependency
32 Eating disorder and other compulsive behaviors
33 Obsessing
34 Being dependent on others
35 Communicating poorly
36 Dishonesty (Including emotional dishonesty)
37 Not saying NO when we mean NO
38 Not saying what we mean and want
39 Saying things indirectly (Sarcasm)
40 Repressing our needs and wants
41 Not feeling like we have a life of our own
42 Low self worth
43 Isolating
44 Preoccupation with feelings of abandonment
45 Believing we deserve little from people and life
46 Believing that life owes us
47 Being self righteous and judgmental
48 Perfectionism
49 Overworking!!!!
50 Unreasonable expectations of others
51 Staying stuck or trapped in relationships
52 Not owing our power with people
53 Becoming rigid and inflexible
54 Getting stuck in misery and negative thinking
55 Not allowing ourselves to have fun
56 Unnecessarily depriving ourselves
57 Expecting others to be responsible for us
58 Martyrdom
59 Unclear and unrealistic thinking
60 Lack of spontaneity
61 Fear or an inability to tackle and solve problems
62 Procrastination
63 Shame (Feeling like nothing, feeling worthless)
64 Confusing pain and/or longing with love
65 Withdrawing from friendships
66 Not tending to our daily routine
67 Being filled with panic and fear
68 Tendency to attract sick and needy people
69 Tendency to be attracted to dysfunctional relationships and employment
opportunities
70 Resentment due to the above characteristics/attributes
71 Difficulty making decisions
72 Addiction to chaos
73 All or Nothing
74 Restlessness
75 Enabling
76 Making excuses (justifying)
77 Self Pity
DON’T WORRY THERE IS A SOLUTION!
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