““Some people create their own storms and then get upset when it rains”
― unknown”
When you sabotage yourself with self defeating thoughts and actions it just makes you feel
even worse.
Instead, focus on things you could do differently. Even if it is just a small gesture such as
cleaning out one drawer instead of the whole house. Take baby steps to improve the things you find
make you upset and overwhelmed. If you feel you are putting on weight or losing too much weight,
write down an easy guide to stick to, in order to make sure you are eating correctly. When you feel
vulnerable repeating the same self destructive behaviour, pause and think how you could do it better.
Sometimes, this might even need to be done on an hourly basis. We are not saints, we are just human
beings trying to make life more pleasant for ourselves.
Be mindful how good it is that you are now aware of not beating yourself up but instead realise
that by making your own life difficult it is a cycle that you can break.
“Those who say life is knocking them down and giving them a tough time are usually the first to beat themselves up. Be on your own side.”
Rasheed Ogunlaru
Right here, right now I will remember that self sabotage is negative, destructive and has no place in my life.
It is when we are hard on ourselves and unfair to ourselves. We create the drama and then sit back and wonder how it all happened.
x niki
copyright NJTurner 2014
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