The Power of Holding Hands
— By Rabbi Harold Kushner
I was sitting on a beach one summer day, watching two children, a boy and a
girl, playing in the sand.
They were hard at work building an elaborate sandcastle by the water’s edge
with gates and towers and moats and internal passages. Just when they had
nearly finished their project, a big wave came along and knocked it down,
reducing it to a heap of wet sand.
I expected the children to burst into tears, devastated by what had happened
to all their hard work. But they surprised me. Instead, they ran up the
shore away from the water, laughing and holding hands, and sat down to build
I realized that they had taught me an important lesson. All the things in
our lives, all the complicated structures we spend so much time and energy
creating, are built on sand.
Only our relationships to other people endure. Sooner or later, the wave
will come along and knock down what we have worked so hard to build up. When
that happens, only the person who has somebody’s hand to hold will be able